The United States has the most family-hostile public policy in the developed world. Despite what is often reported, new mothers don’t “opt out” of work. They are pushed out by discriminating and inflexible workplaces: today’s workplaces idealize the worker who has someone other than parents caring for their children. In this book, the author shows why that view is misguided and how workplace practice disadvantages men, both those who seek to avoid the breadwinner role and those who embrace it, as well as women. Faced with masculine norms that define the workplace, women must play the tomboy or the femme. Both paths result in a gender bias that is exacerbated when the two groups end up against each other. And although work-family issues long have been seen strictly through a gender lens, we ignore class.The relationship between the professional-managerial class and the white working class must be addressed before real reform can take root.