Author decribes the experiences of Dutch women who have paid for sexual intimacy with a gigolo. Author wants to contribute to the acknowledgement of the diversity in the sex industry and to raise the question why the gender variable is not taken seriously in current prostitution paradigms. Sex workers have various reasons for entering the trade, they even do not experience the work in the same way. Not all sex workers are women and not all customers are men. Author hopes do shed some light on different needs, desires and demands of clients of sex workers, especially when the tabes are turned and women, not men, are on the demand side.